Holiday Survival Tips for Divorcing Parents: Part One
Holiday Survival Tips for Divorcing Parents: Part One
The leaves are changing, the days are getting shorter, and before we know it the holidays will be here. For many families, this is a joyful time of year, but if you’re navigating your first holiday season during or after a divorce, it can feel overwhelming. The traditions, the schedules, and the emotions all look different now—and that’s okay.
The good news? You can not only survive the holidays, but you can also create meaningful memories for yourself and your children. Here are the first four survival tips to help you prepare:
1. Focus on What Really Matters
During your first holiday after divorce, shift your focus from presents to people. Your children, family, and friends can be the best support system during this time. Even if it’s tempting to curl up and check out, try to stay engaged. Connection is what truly matters during the holidays.
2. Avoid Competition and Keep Communication Open
Remember, the holidays are about your kids, not about you and your ex. Don’t fall into the trap of competing over who gives the biggest or best gift. Instead, plan ahead and keep the lines of communication open. Try to maintain family traditions where possible, and when children are older, invite them into the planning process. Things may not go perfectly, but keeping the peace will mean everything to your kids.
3. Create New Traditions
If you won’t be with your children on a certain holiday, this is the perfect chance to start something new. Maybe it’s a “Thanksgiving Eve pizza night” or a “day-after-Christmas hike.” Creating new traditions gives your children positive memories to look forward to while still respecting the traditions they love. When you’re apart, use FaceTime or phone calls to stay connected.
4. Practice Self-Care
Yes, your children come first—but so do you. This season can be stressful, and self-care isn’t selfish—it’s survival. Whether it’s a massage, a cozy walk in nature, or simply setting a holiday budget that works for your new financial reality, give yourself grace. A rested, centered parent is the best gift you can give your children.
✨ Stay tuned next month for Part 2 of Holiday Survival Tips for Divorcing Parents, where we’ll share the remaining three strategies—just in time for the busiest part of the season.
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