Making decisions can feel stressful in the best of times. Add divorce into the mix, and suddenly even the smallest choices feel like they carry the weight of the world. I’ve been there, and I’ve also walked alongside clients who’ve struggled with the very same thing.

Let’s be honest: divorce is stressful. That stress is inevitable, but how you manage it will shape everything—your health, your decisions, your mindset, and ultimately, your future.

So many women—especially those who’ve been blindsided or betrayed—go into survival mode during divorce. They become fiercely independent, taking on the emotional, legal, financial, and parenting challenges solo, believing it’s the only way to stay strong. But the truth is: refusing help doesn’t make you strong—it makes you overwhelmed.

We’ve talked about many of the common mistakes women make during divorce—mistakes that often come from heartbreak, betrayal, and sheer overwhelm. This next one is especially costly: avoiding negotiation altogether.

Divorce shakes everything you thought you could count on—your future, your family, your identity, and your sense of security. For many women, the natural response to this upheaval is to reach for something solid, something guaranteed. But here's the trap: in the search for certainty, it's easy to give away your power.

When emotions are high and the future feels uncertain, it can be incredibly difficult to make good decisions. During my divorce coach training, I learned five practical strategies to help women make better, more grounded choices—and I’ve used them myself many times.

We've all seen it—the person who, in the midst of a divorce, falls head over heels for someone new, and suddenly their entire focus shifts to the next chapter. They're convinced this new relationship is the one and are eager to move forward.

When I was going through my divorce, it felt like it would never end. One exhausting email after another, endless meetings, and no clear finish line in sight. I get why so many women hit a breaking point and think, I just want this to be over.

Are you someone who always wants to be right? A Type A perfectionist like me? If so, this common mistake might hit close to home. During a divorce, it's easy to fall into the trap of believing that your way is the only way.