Bring Your Best Self to Your Divorce
Bring Your Best Self to Your Divorce
How to Stay Centered, Calm, and Clear Through a Challenging Transition
If you’ve read my e-book, The Six Most Common Mistakes Women Make During Divorce, then you already know what pitfalls to avoid. But the next step is equally important—how do you bring your best self to the process?
Let’s be honest: divorce is stressful. That stress is inevitable, but how you manage it will shape everything—your health, your decisions, your mindset, and ultimately, your future.
Start With Your Breath
One of the simplest tools I use when I feel overwhelmed is a quick breathing technique that helps reset my nervous system. It only takes a few seconds, but it can make all the difference. Let’s try it:
Take two quick breaths in through your nose.
Now exhale slowly and forcefully through your mouth.
Do that again.
This small act gives you a moment of pause—a chance to respond thoughtfully instead of reacting emotionally. I use this any time I feel triggered or off balance. It brings me back to center.
Prioritize the Things That Keep You Grounded
We’ve already talked about managing stress, but staying grounded also means staying connected to the things you love. During my divorce, I made it a point to:
Keep doing yoga
Spend time with supportive friends and family
Take long walks while listening to music
Lose myself in a good book
Join a book club (which I still look forward to every month!)
These activities weren’t distractions. They were lifelines. They reminded me that I was still me—a woman with passions, interests, and a life outside of my divorce.
You might consider learning a new skill or revisiting an old hobby. The goal is to stay active and engaged, so your energy isn’t consumed by things you can’t control.
Create Mental Clarity
I’m a list person. I always have a dozen running lists—tasks, reminders, ideas—and they help me stay focused and calm. Writing things down brings order to the chaos. It gives your mind a place to rest.
If lists aren’t your thing, try journaling. Or listen to motivational podcasts to stay inspired and centered. The important thing is to create structure and space for yourself to think clearly.
Better Decisions Start with a Calmer You
When you’ve regulated your stress, stayed active, and created mental clarity, you’re able to make better decisions—not out of fear or fatigue, but from a place of confidence and inner calm.
You don’t have to be perfect. You just have to be present.
You’re already doing something brave by facing this chapter with honesty. Now give yourself the support and grace to show up as your best self.
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