Not Asking for or Accepting Help: Don’t Go Through Divorce Alone
Not Asking for or Accepting Help: Don’t Go Through Divorce Alone
One of the Six Most Common Mistakes Women Make During Divorce
We’ve reached what may be the most important mistake of all: trying to do it alone.
So many women—especially those who’ve been blindsided or betrayed—go into survival mode during divorce. They become fiercely independent, taking on the emotional, legal, financial, and parenting challenges solo, believing it’s the only way to stay strong. But the truth is: refusing help doesn’t make you strong—it makes you overwhelmed.
Divorce is not just a legal transaction. It’s a major life transition that touches every area of your world. Trying to navigate it without a team of trusted professionals can cost you your peace, your money, and your long-term well-being.
Here’s what I tell my clients:
You don’t need to know everything—you just need the right people in your corner.
Your divorce team might include:
An experienced family law attorney
A divorce coach to keep you centered and clear-headed
A financial advisor or Certified Divorce Financial Analyst
A real estate professional who understands divorce sales
A therapist to support your emotional recovery
A mediator or parenting coordinator if children are involved
When I went through my own divorce, I took time to interview each professional I worked with. I made sure we were aligned in our values and that they truly understood my goals—not just legally, but emotionally and financially as well. That team became my lifeline. I wasn't just getting divorced—I was building my new life. And I knew I couldn’t do that well without the right support.
You don’t need to go through this alone. In fact, you shouldn’t.
Here’s what asking for and accepting help does:
Reduces stress and emotional burnout
Ensures you make smart, informed decisions
Helps you avoid costly and painful mistakes
Gives you clarity and a sense of control
Reminds you that you are not broken—you are becoming
This is not the time to white-knuckle your way through. This is the time to receive. To lean in. To allow others to help carry the load while you focus on healing, rebuilding, and rediscovering yourself.
“Not Asking for or Accepting Help” is the sixth and final mistake in this series. To learn about all six, download my free e-book, The Six Most Common Mistakes Women Make in Divorce and How to Avoid Them. You deserve guidance, you deserve support—and most of all, you deserve to come out of this stronger than you ever imagined.