Throwing in the Towel: The Cost of Giving Up Too Soon

When I was going through my divorce, it felt like it would never end. One exhausting email after another, endless meetings, and no clear finish line in sight. I get why so many women hit a breaking point and think, I just want this to be over.

If you're at that place—fed up with the fighting, drained from the bitterness, and ready to sign anything just to make it stop—pause for a moment. What will that decision cost you in the long run?

Take Lisa, for example. She was so emotionally exhausted that she agreed to a quick settlement just to put the ordeal behind her. A year later, she realized she had overlooked her ex-husband's deferred compensation plan—a significant asset that should have been part of the division. By then, it was too late. That one rushed decision cost her tens of thousands of dollars. This is just one of many similar stories I've come across in my practice as a divorce coach. 

This is the danger of "throwing in the towel." The desire to escape the stress now can lead to years of regret later.

So how do you keep going when you feel like you have nothing left? Prioritizing self-care.

✓ Find Your Stress Outlet – Whether it's yoga, meditation, a long walk, or even hitting the gun range (yes, I had a client who swore by this!), releasing tension in a healthy way helps you think clearly.
✓ Take Breaks When Needed – Stepping away from legal discussions for a day or two can reset your mindset.
✓ Lean on a Support System – Friends, coaches, or support groups can remind you why it's worth staying engaged in the process.

Divorce will end—but making rushed decisions out of frustration can leave you dealing with consequences for years. Instead of throwing in the towel, take a deep breath, center yourself, and make choices that truly serve your future.

"Throwing in the Towel" is just one of the common mistakes women make during divorce.  To save yourself from making this mistake and others, download my e-book here.