How to Make Better Decisions During Divorce: Practical Strategies to Reduce Regret and Stay in Control
How to Make Better Decisions During Divorce
Five Practical Strategies to Reduce Regret and Stay in Control
When emotions are high and the future feels uncertain, it can be incredibly difficult to make good decisions. During my divorce coach training, I learned five practical strategies to help women make better, more grounded choices—and I’ve used them myself many times.
Whether you’re dealing with custody issues, finances, your living situation, or just trying to figure out what comes next, I hope these tips give you clarity when things feel overwhelming.
1. Sleep On It
You’ve heard this before, and there’s a reason it’s lasted through time. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve woken up with a completely different perspective than I had the night before. A good night’s sleep gives your brain the rest it needs to process, sort, and gain clarity. It helps you see the big picture instead of reacting from emotion.
2. Don’t Rush
It’s tempting to want to just “get it over with.” But rushing into agreements—especially during divorce—can lead to mistakes that are hard to undo. Take your time. Ask for time to think things over. Look at the situation from multiple angles. Being deliberate and intentional now will save you from second-guessing yourself later.
3. Focus on Facts
Opinions—especially from well-meaning friends or family—can muddy the waters quickly. Instead, stay focused on the facts. If you don’t have all the information, ask questions and get the clarity you need before making a choice. Facts are what empower you to make wise decisions.
4. Stay Open-Minded
This one is tough for many of us. We all carry beliefs and biases, and often gravitate toward people who reinforce them. But during divorce, it’s essential to remain open to all possible solutions. Someone else might offer a perspective or idea you hadn’t considered—one that turns out to be exactly what you need. Stay curious. Stay flexible.
5. Set Boundaries
Sometimes the best way to make a decision is to decide before you’re even faced with the choice. Know your budget before house-hunting. Set clear parenting priorities before negotiations begin. When you create personal boundaries—around money, time, or emotional energy—you create structure that makes it easier to say yes to the right things and no to the rest.
Divorce is full of big, life-changing decisions. With a calm mindset and the right tools, you can make choices you’ll feel good about—not just for today, but for your future.
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