If You Want Guarantees and Certainty During Your Divorce - Don't Give Away Your Power!
If You Want Guarantees and Certainty During Your Divorce- Don't Give Away Your Power!
One of the Six Most Common Mistakes Women Make During Divorce
Divorce shakes everything you thought you could count on—your future, your family, your identity, and your sense of security. For many women, the natural response to this upheaval is to reach for something solid, something guaranteed. But here's the trap: in the search for certainty, it's easy to give away your power.
Some women hesitate to take a single step forward until they feel absolutely sure they’re making the right decision. They want to know how everything will turn out before they act. But the truth is, there are no guarantees in divorce—just like there are no guarantees in life.
And when fear takes over, it can lead to a dangerous kind of paralysis.
Take Karen, for example. She stayed in limbo for over a year—terrified to make a move without being “100% sure” it was the right one. Instead of building clarity and confidence, her indecision prolonged the pain, drained her finances, and kept her from moving on. Even worse, she began outsourcing her decision-making—relying on her attorney, her parents, and even her soon-to-be ex-husband to guide her future.
Let me be clear: your lawyer is there to give you legal advice, not to decide what kind of life you want. Your family can offer emotional support, but they are not living your life. And your ex certainly doesn't get to shape your future.
Only YOU know what’s best for you and your children.
When you stay actively engaged in the process and surround yourself with a support team who empowers you—not one that takes over—you take your power back. You may not get everything you want in your divorce, but you can walk away knowing that every decision was made with your values, your voice, and your future in mind.
This is the time to:
✓ Ask questions and get educated—not paralyzed.
✓ Make decisions based on your long-term goals—not short-term fear.
✓ Assemble a support team that encourages independence—not dependency.
✓ Trust that even without a crystal ball, you can move forward with courage and clarity.
Divorce may feel like the end of certainty, but it doesn’t have to be the end of your confidence. In fact, this can be the beginning of you stepping into your power.
"Wanting Guarantees and Certainty" is just one of the six common mistakes women make during divorce. To avoid this mistake and others, download my free e-book, The Six Most Common Mistakes Women Make in Divorce and How to Avoid Them, and take the first step toward reclaiming your voice, your confidence, and your future.